A great reminder of God’s goodness!

// September 30th, 2009 // Loux Family News

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Our three living miracle boys... Silas, Ethan and Sasha!

Ethan’s progess has been nothing short of a miracle. Derek and I were looking at some past pictures of Ethan when we first took him out of the orphanage.  We were shocked at the shape he was in!  It’s amazing how your mind forgets some of the hard details of the past when such growth has been made. It’s good to see the growth and it’s also important to remember God’s faithfulness and all the Lord has brought Ethan through.  Ethan is truly a miracle child!  All our boys are!

When Derek and I were in Ukraine going through the process of adopting our three precious sons, Derek went though a really difficult time connecting with Ethan, who at that time was named Dimitri.  On December 12th, Derek and I were sitting in the office of a telephone company using the wireless internet to write some emails. Derek began to write a post for our adoption blog.  As he was writing the post, he had tears in his eyes. I knew the Lord was speaking something powerful to his heart.  We wanted to re-post Derek’s post again to remind you of God’s greatness and His power!  When you read the post below you will be reading the names Roman, Dimitri and Sasha as the three boys we were in the process of adopting. We changed Roman’s name to Silas, Dimitri’s to Ethan and we kept Sasha’s name. When we left Ukraine with Ethan, he weighed 11 pounds at 5 years old. He now weighs 26 pounds and has grown 8 inches in 9 months.  He laughs, he smiles, he talks, he’s learning how to walk and he is very smart.  We were told he would “do nothing.” What a testament to the Lord’s awesome power!

Those of you who follow our blog are aware that since this post below, we have not only adopted our three boys but have also brought in two new daughters, Leeann and our little Sana. God is good! What an amazing heavenly Father we have!  His love endures forever and we have 10 beautiful blessings to prove it!!

Friday, December 12, 2008

Renee’ and I are sitting in the office of a telephone company in Novograd Valenski, Ukraine, using wireless internet.  We are in the middle of adopting three special needs boys from an orphanage here.  Two of the boys have Down Syndrome.  Roman is high functioning, energetic and happy.  Dimitri has serious mental retardation, failure to thrive, and though he is five years old, he is the size of a 1 year old.  He has sores on his face, a distinct smell of death on him, and yells out if we try to do anything with him other than hold him. Because he has less ability to respond and learn, he naturally gets less attention and care from the orphanage workers in this world of limited resources.  The harsh reality of the “survival of the fittest” principle is a life and death struggle that this little boy is losing fast.  Our third boy Sasha, is a brilliant six year old who has Spina Bifida (the condition our son Josiah died from in 1996). He is like a learning sponge that can’t get enough! He is happy and alert and thirsty for knowledge and experience.  So with two of our boys, we get an immediate return on any investment we make.  With Dimitri, there’s not much immediate gratification. In fact, it’s unknown when and if there will be a return at all. This is the kind of situation that makes the carnal, fallen, human reasoning think, “Why try?  What’s the point?  What will this produce?  What good will this do?  Why not select a boy who has more potential?  This looks like a lost cause.

Two days ago we drove for hours into the Ukrainian countryside to the village where Dimitri was born. We met with officials there and signed papers and answered their questions. We also went and saw Dimitri’s house. The day had been long, we were still recovering from jet lag, I was beginning to really miss my six daughters at home and all the familiar things our fragile human hearts entangle themselves with in feeble attempts to feel secure. Sitting in the dark on our very long drive back to Novograd that night, the Holy Spirit began to whisper to my heart, and new understanding about redemption began to take shape.

I was thinking, “Man, adopting this little boy has been so much work. This is exhausting, expensive, uncomfortable … and it doesn’t feel very rewarding right now.” What am I doing in some little Soviet car in the dark, in the middle of rural Ukraine in frozen December, as the driver dodges cats and potholes? What if Dimitri doesn’t improve at all? What if we get “nothing” out of this? … Ahhh, there it was; that dark, fallen, unreedemed, selfish human love, rooted in the tree of the knowledge of “good and evil”. The love the Greeks called “erao” love. The love where we treat someone as precious and treasured for what we can get out of it. This is unlike “agapeo” love, the God kind of love that treats someone as treasured and precious for their good, not for my good. It’s when I love a person in order to meet their needs, having no expectation of them meeting any of my needs. At a whole new level, God is working His kind of love into my weak heart, and He’s using little Dimitri to do it.

On the drive home that night, the Lord whispered in my ear, “This is Redemption. Derek, do you know how far I travelled to get you and bring you back? I had to be separated from my Son, in order to get you, just like you are separated from your children in order to get these boys. Do you know how expensive it was for Me to purchase you? It cost me everything. Do you know how broken, sick, damaged, twisted, dirty, smelly, and hopeless you were? And at the end of it all, you had nothing to give me or add to me. I did it for you. I emptied myself and became nothing so that you could have it all. This is redemption.

My friends, adoption is redemption. It’s costly, exhausting, expensive, and outrageous. Buying back lives costs so much. When God set out to redeem us, it killed Him. And when He redeems us, we can’t even really appreciate or comprehend it, just like Dimitri will never comprehend or fully appreciate what is about to happen to him … but … he will live in the fruit of it. As his Daddy, I will never expect him to understand all of this or even to thank me. I just want to watch him live in the benefits of my love and experience the joys of being an heir in my family. This is how our heavenly “Papa” feels towards us.

Today, settle your busy heart down and rest in the benefits of redemption. Enjoy the fruits of His goodness, and stop trying to “pay Him back”. You’ll never get close you goofy little kid.


9 Responses to “A great reminder of God’s goodness!”

  1. Wow.The power of Love is amazing. I think it’s so powerful, too, to see how God has blessed you guys for daring to trust Him enough to love this little guy. What a testimony to His faithfulness. Wow.

  2. Melissa says:

    Thank you for reposting this. I remember reading it then and being moved by it and it was definitely worth reading again.

    I was actually just looking at a little guy who we could adopt through RR along with the little girl we are committed to. He has already been sent to an institution and I was wondering what his future would be outside those walls in a family. I think I’m gonna need to pray about that a little more :)

  3. Arden says:

    I am in TEARS reading (and re-reading) this blog! I saw both Ethan and Silas today as they were being driven home from church and my heart was bursting with JOY at the goodness and redemption of the Lord! Thank you for obeying!

  4. Anne Harrison says:

    Hey Loux’s…it is no coincidence that I went to your site today, as I did, the phone rang and I went to get it. It was the ‘foster’ daughter that we took in 10 years ago that we told you about at lunch the other day, that we had basically lost contact with. It was the first time she and I had really talked since being reunited this past summer, and she told me about what was going on in her family right now……I am in shock at the lengths that sin can take us, and her family has been ‘steeped’ in ALL of it. (I can share more of that with you later, it makes my hair stand on end.) I don’t know how this little girl even survived, except I can see the hand of the Lord on her life. Anyway, I get off the phone in just a shocked stupor, and go back to your site, here. I read the re posted blog of Derek’s journey in the Ukraine with Ethan….and feel sooo encouraged of how He (our Father) came after us. Just seeing how you felt then, and now how far Ethan has come… and knowing how far he will go!! It encourages me about Amber….we are fixing to meet for lunch today…Praise the Lord!!! He wants to heal her, I know it….AND her family!
    “Thank you Father for coming after us!!! We love you!!!”
    Bless you, Loux family!

  5. Randall Smith says:

    This blog is so heartbreaking, but also SO heartwarming.
    Apparently you are in the KC area. So am I. We are traveling to Ukraine this summer to adopt. Can I write to you and ask some questions?

  6. Renee Loux says:

    Hi Randal,
    I would be more than happy to speak with you all about adoption. Please feel free to email me at reneeloux@orphanjusticecenter.com. Thanks so much and God bless you!

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  8. [...] “My friends, adoption is redemption. It’s costly, exhausting, expensive, and outrageous. Buying back lives costs so much. When God set out to redeem us, it killed Him.   And when He redeems us, we can’t even really appreciate or comprehend it, just like (Maria and Elijah) will never comprehend or fully appreciate what is about to happen to (them) … but … they will live in the fruit of it. As (their) Parents, I will never expect (them) to understand all of this or even to thank me. I just want to watch (them) live in the benefits of my love and experience the joys of being an heir in my family. This is how our heavenly “Papa” feels towards us.  -Derek Loux [...]

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